Even though every divorce is different and not every Pennsylvania resident experiences horror stories relating to division of assets or child custody, some of the following pieces of information may be important to keep in mind before pulling the trigger on divorce proceedings. Indeed, when it comes to divorce, advanced knowledge is vital for avoiding heartache, financial hardship and other difficulties.
First, a lot of people do not realize that divorce is difficult no matter which side of the situation you happen to be sitting on. If it was your spouse who wanted the divorce and not you, the feelings of rejection can be overpowering. If it was you who wanted the divorce and not your spouse, the difficult life transitions, feelings of loss, regret and shame will also be extremely difficult to overcome. Let’s face it, divorce is always hard and there is no way around it.
Another misnomer is the idea that when your divorce has finished, your issues relating to your ex-spouse will be finished. Unfortunately, this is not the case — especially when you have children. No matter how much you dislike your ex-spouse, you will still have to coordinate the raising of your children and this will require regular communication. In such circumstances, it is best to try and let go, embrace forgiveness and practice a peaceful mindset. As hard — or as impossible — as that might sound, it is definitely the best approach.
These examples are just a couple of things that Pennsylvania residents may not have considered prior initiating their divorces. Indeed, there are many more things that one should know before undertaking the process, and many of them will only be discovered after filing the divorce. However, in most cases an experienced family law attorney can help individuals sidestep common difficulties related to the division of property, child custody and other components of the typical divorce.
Source: Today, “10 things I wish I’d known before getting divorced” Nicole Feuer, Jan. 29, 2015